Is it fate when two fall in love?

It's probably one of those questions that can't really be answered, but I'll ask it anyway: Is it fate when two people fall in love?

It happens so many times that two people meet, talk, get to know each other. They develop feelings, fall in love and eventually come together, even marry. A classic love story. And then you look back with your partner and you think: It must have been fate how we met and fell in love. This assumption may be right or wrong.

Here's how I see it. Either you see fate in every little thing that happens to you or you see fate only in big things in life. Or you see everything as a mere coincidence. Anything's possible, depends on your perception of reality. But let's focus on fate.

Let's say you see fate in every little thing that happens in your life. Then you're the kind of person that sees signs and deep meanings in things that may be just ordinary to others. I think such understanding of reality can be defendable, if you don't go into extremes and read to much into insignificant things. But then again, what is insignificant? It's a fairly subjective matter and it's debatable as well.

On the other hand, there's people who see fate in big things in life. Those would be occasions where someone's life was instantly changed - like an unexpected death, accidents, sickness, winning the lottery... and most likely in this group as well: Finding the love of your life.

And then we have to clarify: What is the love of one's life? We all have different criteria for that. Some people live for the moment, change partners like it's the most natural thing. They can have multiple relationships, marriages, affairs, flings and still feel good about themselves. That's totally legitimate - to each his own.

I (on the other hand) am just not that kind of man. I always get attached to the woman I love, that's why I'm looking for something long and lasting. I know this romatic concept seems to be outdated these days, but as I said many times: I am a hopeless romantic. I still hope, wish, anticipate that one woman who would be with me for a long long time or as we usually say in a poetic way: Forever!

But you can never know. Life has so many unexpected twists and turns. Who knows, if I will have these romantic expectations in 10, 20 or 30 years. But I need to live thru to that age, I need to find what I am looking for now, at this point of my life. You can't jump over to the next step. You will likely trip and fall.

But if one day when I'm old and if I happen to be married for a long long time, I will put my scepticism aside and I'll say to my wife: You know, when we fell in love and married so many decades ago, it must have been fate that brought us together. Now I know it. Because you are the love of my life, you made me happy like nobody else, you completed me and you lasted with me almost all my life. That's where I do believe in the concept of fate.

How about you?

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