What do you see in her?

What's the 1st thing that comes to your mind when you see this picture?

[Model 丁晗 Ding Han, Beijing: Source]

How to attract the Chinese woman of your dreams?

*Seriously, I have no clue how you do that. You won't find an answer on my blog, I am no seduction expert. But you even may have other questions like: Why do Western men manage to attract Chinese women? How to attract beautiful Chinese girls? How to seduce Asian Women? How to date a Chinese girl? How are Chinese, Japanese or Korean women in love and marriage? Heck, you may even have questions about flings, affairs or mail order brides or even sex. But as I said, you won't find answers about these matters on my blog, I don't have an Asian singles blog, nor do I post Asian or Chinese singles dating personals.

All I can give you here is a simple advice: Learn Chinese! Learn the language, communicate and be yourself and all the questions you asked, will be answered.

And if you happen to look for some great chinese phrases, check my blog series about

Learning Chinese.

You'll find Chinese phrases and dialogues that you can use for writing text messages, emails or casual conversations. Please give me feedback, if my phrases helped you.

Thanks and 谢谢 for dropping by.

*Disclaimer: This post is intended to for SEO ;-)

Learning Chinese: Going to the cinema

The topic for today will be going to the cinema together with your crush or girl of interest. This time it will be a very formal description, so please don't expect a very casual dialogue. This part was put together with my dear Chinese teacher Lily, who not only translated everything, she also added her own ideas for the dialogue. So thank you very much, I really appreciate it. And I hope these phrases would be useful to those who plan to invite a Chinese girl to see a nice movie. Good luck!

[Voice file with pronounciation here and (here) - by Lily]

6.0 Going to the cinema

First you call her or message her:

你想看电影吗？
Nǐ xiǎng kàn diàn yǐng ma?
Do you want to see a movie?

是的，我想看电影。
Shì de, wǒ xiǎng kàn diàn yǐng.
Yes, I'd like to see a movie.

你想看什么电影？
Nǐ xiǎng kàn shénme diàn yǐng?
What movie do you want to see?

我们可以看爱情电影吗？
Wǒ men kě yǐ kàn ài qíng diàn yǐng ma?
Can we see a romantic movie?

当然，我很乐意。
Dāng rán, wǒ hěn lè yì.
Of course, it's my pleasure.

Besides the cinema, you can also invite her out for dinner.
You'll find the suitable phrases here.

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At the cinema:

让我们先买票吧。
Ràng wǒ men xiān mǎi piào ba.
Let's buy the tickets first.

好的。喔，队伍很长，我们必须等上一段时间。
Hǎo de. Wō, duì wǔ hěn cháng, wǒ men bì xū děng shàng yī duàn shí jiān.
Yes. Oh, the line is long, we will have to wait a while.

是的，今天很多人。
Shì de, jīn tiān hěn duō rén.
Yes, there's so many people today.

请给我两张爱情电影的票。
Qīng gěi wǒ liǎng zhāng ài qíng diàn yǐng de piào.
Two tickets for the romantic movie, please.

你想要吃点食物或饮料吗？
Nǐ xiǎng yào chī diǎn shí wù huò yǐn liào ma?
Do you want to have some food and drinks?

我想要一杯可乐跟一袋爆米花。
Wǒ xiǎng yào yī bēi kě lè gēn yī dài bào mǐ huā.
I want a cup of coke and a package of popcorn.

让我们走去找位置吧。
Ràng wǒ men zǒu qù zhǎo wèi zhì ba.
Let's go and find our seats.

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After the movie, you may ask her these things:

你喜欢这部电影吗？
Nǐ xǐ huān zhè bù diàn yǐng ma?
How did you like the movie?

我很喜欢。你呢？
Wǒ hěn xǐ huān. Nǐ ne?
I liked it very much. And you?

我也很喜欢。
Wǒ yě hěn xǐ huān.
I liked it, too.

If you want to flatter her, use these phrases.

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And then it's time to part:

谢谢你和我出来。
Xiè xiè nǐ hé wǒ chū lái.
Thank you for going out with me.

我希望我们很快能再见面。
Wǒ xī wàng wǒ men hěn kuài néng zài jiàn miàn.
I hope we meet again soon.

不客气，我到家时会打电话给你。
Bù kèqi, wǒ dào jiā shí huì dǎ diàn huà gěi nǐ.
You're welcome. I will call you when I reach home.

好的，再见了。
Hǎo de. Zài jiàn le.
Ok, bye bye, see you.

[Photo: Source]

Always be positive!

My life is lately a little different than it used to be. I remember writing about an up some 1 month ago. That up was short lived and an emo phase followed soon after. But today I can say that in the recent 2 weeks I'm feeling great :-) And there are several reasons for that. Mostly it's because I changed my perception on things. I know when people are emo, they take every single thing so seriously. I had my share of these days, especially on some rainy August days. And I did write some posts or comments that I really regret writing. But hey, I am just human, I make mistakes. But more important is that I learn from them and that I can apologize sincerely.
And so it happened that I slowly crawled out of my depressing period and just today realized how much more optimistic I am. Of course I didn't do that all by myself, far from that. It's because of people who came into my life unexpectedly and taught me a lot of new things, shifted my views and put back a smile on my face. You know who you are and you know you mean a lot to me. And even if it seems too good to be true, I'm living for the moment. I'm truly positive. It's so easy to fall back into emo mode, that's why I'm enjoying my happy days as much as I can. I even got some awsome new Twitter followers, among them the Singaporean celebrity blogger Dawn Yang, who not only follows me, but even tweets/DMs back sometimes and I don't have a clue how come. I've been following her blog for few months now and sending her some tweets and I guess she liked it. I'm happy that she follows me back, because I like her and I think she's an awsome girl. In addition to that, our (read Slovenian) most famous and popular blogger Had also started following me on Twitter and I have no idea why, but it feels great, too. Twitter and blogging really connect people and it's very easy. Here's how I do it. If you want to befriend people,

• be just yourself - be honest, mean what you say
• be positive - instead of criticising, focus on the good points
• be loyal - if you follow someone, be there for them if they need you
• try to give good advice - but put yourself in their shoes
• be patient - don't rush, focus on quality not quantity
  

That's how I do it lately and it works. It may stop, it may change... But that's how life is: full of ups and downs, constant changes, people come and go. But some things always stay the same, some people will always be there for you even when the majority leaves you behind.

When you stand in rain and need an umbrella, they will hand it to you.

So be positive, give and recieve, don't look for trouble. If people offend you (offline or online), be above it all, don't feed the trolls, you can be so much classier than them. Ignore them, block them, delete them. If I can do it, you can do it, too. :-)

It's all in our minds.

[Photo Kang Yui: Source]

My Murtaugh list

The faboulous Andhari asked me, if we could write a blog post with the same topic today. I asked her what would that be? And she said let's write our personal Murtaugh list. I was like: What is that? Well, to put it simply, it's a list of things that you would do when you were young, but now you're too old for them and you wouldn't do them anymore. If you want to find out the whole history of the Murtaugh list and about the name, check this blog. It's explained very well. To read Andhari's interesting Murtaugh list, go here. My dear sis Selvy made her Murtaugh list, too. Check it here and my new friend Wenny made her list here.

So here's my Murtaugh list:

01 I'm too old to watch the Smurfs on TV. [I was hooked on them when I was 12]

02 I'm too old to judge people by the music they listen to. [This is so teenager-ish]

03 I'm too old ask my mum to fetch me from a party. [Oh, that happened when I was a teen]

04 I'm too old to fall in love with someone based only on her looks. [Teeny crushes, right?]

05 I'm too old to get wasted every weekend. [When I was 18, that was my life!]

06 I'm too old to wear a nose piercing. [I had one at 18, I was quite something then :-P ]

07 I'm too old to forget brushing my teeth regularly. [At age 3 I totally didn't care :-P ]

08 I'm too old for one-night stands. [Wait, I never had any :-P ]

09 I'm too old to get upset about what someone blogs or comments about. [I've matured!]

10 I'm too old to get drunk after a break-up. [I miss the teen-years sometimes]

11 I'm too old to be mad at someone for a long time. [I forgive, but I may distant myself]

12 I'm too old to impersonate Michael Jackson moonwalking.

13 I'm too old to forget fixing my hair before I go to town.

14 I'm too old to ride a tricycle. [I drove one at age 4]

15 I'm too old to brag about the amount of ear butter in my ears. [Kids in the 80s]

16 I'm too old to chew gum and make baloons with it. [Kids in the 90s]

17 I'm too old for a tamagotchi. [I never had one anyway]

18 I'm too old to bedazzle my handphone. [And wrong gender ;-) ]

19 I'm too old to hide behind the corner and scare people (and laugh).

20 I'm too old to wear white tennis socks. [So early 90s].

21 I'm too old to laugh at racist or gay jokes. [As kids we thought it's funny...]

22 I'm too old to get fooled twice. [Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice...]

23 I'm too old to like just one band and obsess about it. [Like some do with Jonas bros.]

24 I'm too old to believe in Santa. [Hey, I'm almost 30! ;-) ]

25 I'm too old drink whisky and pretend it tastes good. [At 18 I did, maybe now I'd like it..]

26 I'm too old to write another Murtaugh list.

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So this is it. How do you like it? What would be on your Murtaugh list?

Lee Hyori: Cosmopolitan photos 2009

I won't say much, because I am speechless. This is Lee Hyori, Korean superstar, one of the hottest women in the world, and the one on my header pic. These photos were made in September 2009. [That guy is so lucky!] Enjoy!

[Exceptional women][My HYORI page][Photos: Source]

About autumn rain

Is it a coincidence that rain rhymes with pain and sun rhymes with fun? Is it a coincidence that rain resembles tears?

I don't know why autumn rain makes me melancholic. I'm tired today and it's been raining all day and it may continue so the next two days. When you're alone, weather matters. A sunny day will make you forget all your fears and insecurities, a rainy day will make you face them. Rain makes you stay inside. You gaze out of the window and you contemplate: Why am I confined to this little space? I want to break free, I want to leave, I want to go far far away... I want to escape gloominess and run away from my inner demons. I just want to be happy.

爱 Rain has no effect on me when I have my loved one beside me. I imagine snuggling on the couch, wrapped in a blanket and watching TV... It may be the most boring scene ever. You know, slippers on the floor... dreamy eyes, cracking bones... On the other hand: Giggling, tickling, rubbing the cheeks, kissing... And it can rain as much as it wants! I couldn't care less! [I need you in my life.] Because I want to see the glow in her eyes, when I intertwine my fingers with hers and pull her near to kiss her. I want her to change my four-seasons mindset into life.

怼 I have once been broken up while walking outside and it suddenly started pouring like doomsday. We ran back to her house, she gave me a towel and I wiped off the rain from my face. Soon after, her father drove me to the train station and I never saw her again. I once drove someone to the airport and it was raining a lot. We were hopeful. I never saw her again.

Ah, rain. we're in a love-hate relationship.
But my tears always dry. So does the rain.

[Photo: Rain outside my house]